Seven Tips To Help Your Children Feel Safe and Secure
As children’s brains are highly malleable, positive relationships with trusted adults can also help mitigate and protect against adverse outcomes. Schools adopting trauma-informed approaches aim to reduce children’s physiological and psychological distress through safe, consistent learning environments and positive teacher-pupil relationships. These strategies aim to reduce stressors, enhance academic engagement and attainment and improve life chances into adulthood.
Trauma-informed teaching isn’t about ticking a box or adding another initiative to your to-do list—it’s about doing things differently in ways that benefit all pupils. Positive relationships with trusted, supportive adults through connection, co-regulation and reflection are at the heart of trauma-informed practice.
Try starting with:
1. Give Every Child A Warm Welcome: This is a simple way to build trust and lessen children’s anxiety on entering the classroom.
2. Establish Predictability: Schedules help children feel secure in what’s coming next, as does responding consistently and calmly.
3. Offer Choices: Provide small decisions to give children a sense of control and empowerment.
4. Co-Regulation: When a child is dysregulated, connect and calm children first before reflecting and problem-solving.
5. Model Self-regulation: Show children how to pause, take deep breaths and manage their emotions.
6. Embed Regular Mindfulness & Movement Practices: Simple activities like stretching or using sensory tools can help reset the nervous system. So, build these in throughout the day.
7. Prioritise Curiosity Over Compliance: Prioritise children’s safety and emotional well-being by considering what the child is trying to say with their behaviour or what unmet needs are they trying to fulfill. Instead of using: “Stop speaking to me like that”, “Listen”, “Calm down” - what could you use? Instead of “Calm down!”, try “What’s going on for you right now?”
These small, thoughtful shifts can positively impact on children’s well-being, engagement and ability to thrive in school. These strategies are even more powerful when supported by school-wide policies such as:
- Staff training on trauma-informed practice
- Restorative behaviour policies
- Explicit socio-emotional and metacognitive teaching and learning
- Counselling or pastoral support for children
- Ongoing CPD and coaching for staff
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